MANLY THINGS

Soon it will be gift giving once again...and you don't know what to give HIM. I know how you feel, it's the same for me each and every year, and not just once a year considering all the occasions we are obliged to give and the non-occasional days when you just want to give him something (wink!)

If you are like me who read pocketbooks, I'm sure you also have come across novels that circles around the earlier centuries. And maybe somehow can appreciate those times when men have this so called "study" or this own room where he settles down to, to do his work. More like a library to which does not commonly interests women before. I like the idea of having such for my hubby, if and when I have one already hahaha. I guess these days it is better called "office" or office space in the home.

And this gave me an idea of having an old-fashioned library in our home that have stuffs to make it old fashioned but homely. Maybe you can start having one as well so you can fill it up little by little through gift givings in the coming year. GREAT IDEA, right? And the first that comes to my mind that is old fashioned will be the clock. Thinking of Grandfather clocks, well, if the place is big enough maybe something like it. But I have seen this site with hermle clocks and those wonderful ideas I have never thought before. Like this table here that I find uniquely magnificent as well as this tabletop glass encased hermle clock. What do you think? Does your husband have his own study or space like such?

Well...I hope this help you somehow with the gift ideas you're suppose to be thinking of as early as now for the coming year-end celebrations.

MEN ARE BIG BOYS

"Men's second childhood begins when a woman gets a hold of him."
~ James M. Barrie

Can we blame it on human nature? Women are basically created to pamper. It pleases us to take care of people, especially our love ones. We have this maternal instinct to take care of our kids. That no matter how much we need a Handbook for Dummies when we first hold our first borne, we still know how when worst comes to worst. And this instinct we extend not only to kids, but to our man. We tend to go soft on them. We try to make everything right for them. We do things that will make them happy. AND THEY ARE AWARE OF THIS! Since men and women were created to fit each others needs, this is probably when men gives in to what the women needs to do...to their advantage! On the other hand, we love them more when they let us do it. It's like fulfillment of our duty being a woman. Even on the negative end...when they whine and we reprimand (hahaha!)

Therefore, I truly agree with James Barrie, don't you?

CAN YOU HAVE TWO MEN IN YOUR LIFE?

Have you ever been in such a dilemma when you just can’t decide who you love better? That you can have either one of them so in your mind, you just let them be there both for you…but in reality you have to choose!?! Well, some would say “lucky you” to find not just one but two who interests you that much and that the feeling is mutual. But the truth is ~ it is difficult!

Don’t get me wrong, I am not having such a dilemma…well, I do, but only with my problem between choosing for “McDreamy or McSteamy?” Ring a bell? If you are a fanatic of Grey’s Anatomy (or as addicted as I am…yeah, TOTALLY!) you would know that McDreamy is Dr. Derek Shepherd, and McSteamy is Dr. Mark Sloan. These are the two sizzling hot male characters that’s mainly the reason to my unending need to continuously watch the chapter after chapter of the 6 seasons of cd that I have until I reach the very last episode, next to the fantastic write up that truly pokes my emotion with the real life crisis that happens to the patients and the people in a hospital setting. These two characters make my mind go crazy with wanting to be in Meredith Grey’s life, more so within the hospital and within reach of Shepherd and Sloan. ( I wonder…it used to e me wanting to be a Jedi or a super hero, now this?! Haha!) Funny but just now I am having difficulty deciding what story to write in my head to make me fit in the life of my McDreamy or McSteamy that would match up with either one of them. And to whom should I be attracted to really? They actually are two very different men, but both worth fantasizing over, tsk! I love them both but who will be best to be my happy ever after? Darn!

And this is when I stop and sigh, “I am glad in real life I don’t have to choose between two such adorable men!” Do you or have you? It will be magnificent to hear such a real life story of such.

GAIN LOVE THROUGH THE STOMACH

Do you believe that MEN WILL LOVE YOU MORE IF YOU LOVE HIM THROUGH HIS STOMACH? By fulfilling his hunger and cravings for food?

The truth is, I've been hearing a lot about this, but up until now I have no answer to that question. Thinking about it, I LOVE TO EAT. And maybe, just maybe, giving your man what he loves (which may be eating most of the time) will guarantee return of that love. From my previous relationships I gathered that men are simply more interested in eating than women are, them also not being overly conscious of bulging stomachs. So I concluded that pleasing them with tasty and sumptuous meals will make them happier, more thankful and more loving to you.

"MEN LIE, THEY JUST DO" by Madonna

"MEN LIE, THEY JUST DO" by pop idol Madonna is a popular phrase for me. Maybe based from experience, I can say that "Yeah, she's right!"

But I guess the "In every rule there is an exemption" can also count here. I cannot generally say that they lie since I do not all of them...not ALL men but MOST men do, perhaps.

Why you say? I actually do not know because I AM A WOMAN! Maybe you can enlighten us, if you are a man?

HONEY, HAVE YOU SEEN THE HDMI CABLES?

As in every household, husbands tend to lose his things and asks his better half about it. You hear him asking where his shirt is, where his watch went, why his swiss knife isn't where he left it, even where his HDMI cables has been transferred to.

Sometimes it is endearing to think that he needs you even in such a tiny thing...but then at times it's irritatingly redundant to hear him ask you about his things when he should be keeping them to where it should be in the first place.

Men are generally such a clutter freak but then there are always exemption. I will be truly happy to have someone as organize as I am so as not to create any irritating feeling of needing to always clean up after my man. Glad I have yet to find the courage to choose and finally settle down.

TOUGHER SEX

It is all but natural to see girls shed a tear or even to the point of wailing and howling BUT NOT BOYS?

If you ask me, I don't see anything wrong when they do. Maybe it's the way they do it and the reason for it. Naturally, we are more sensitive and emotional to really revert to tears but MEN are also human. Only, we see them to be tougher and tears just don't fit for simple TV scenes, a little misunderstanding or a front an out burst. Culture had them checking out their reactions and on handling their emotions.

Thus the very seldom occurrence of seeing them cry is overwhelming and touching. Or you don't agree that MEN ARE ALLOWED TO CRY?

As a man, what can be your contribution for us to understand you more?

ADDITIONAL “POGI” POINTS (“HANDSOMENESS”)

Frankly speaking, we ladies do not just go for handsome men, there are certain “pogi” points we call that add up to it as to who to choose for a husband or boyfriend material. “Pogi” points means: some additional characteristics or things that can affect our making a decision whether to entertain a certain suitor.

We look into his family and background, his inner beauty, his being presentable, his stability and self worth WHICH INCLUDES HIS CAR! Well, not all ladies find this important, but most do. You hear questions like, “does he have his own place?” or “what’s he driving?” Does he have 2010 toyota?

Ehem, you can’t blame them…because it is more than just a necessity. It is a measure of your capability as a provider. Have you seen the cadillac escalade photos? A mouth watering beauty! Or that of the chevrolet tahoe hybrid pics? Superb creations that make you want to drag him to the altar?

But then, it’s not all material things. Yes his stability is important in this crazy world we live in, but love cannot survive with riches alone! He may have those luxury cars for all you want but he jumps from one relationship to another portraying how insincere he is; or he may be driving a different car every time you went out, but what of his respect for you? Be sure that he will not slap it all in your face the moment you have a little disagreement.

And so, it is nice to have those additional points, but put greater importance to the intangible things he offers. Love, honesty and perseverance are on top of my list! What’s in yours?

KNOCK KNOCK? A GENTELMAN HERE?

The truth is...it's getting harder and harder to find one these days.

I cannot say that MEN are purely to blame, because once upon a time they were there "for" us. Until sexism popped out of nowhere. Now they are giving us the space we needed, the level and equality we are seeking or demanding...only, TOO MUCH IS BEING GIVEN.

Sometimes when I read novels with settings on centuries ago, I cannot help but compare how special and precious and sensitive the women are then than today. The men values them like gems, they were taken care of like a fragile flower. They have less responsibilities. How easy it would have been . Then again, women have no voices before. They cower behind their men, they sit beside their feet and lick their hands.

But men need not be way above us, domineering and conceited being stronger than us, the weaker sex, to be gentleman! With or without that power, that strength, they can be respectful of women rights. They can value our capabilities, they can help with our weaknesses. What is so difficult with not raising hands over us? What's listening to our opinions and giving in when we are on the right? What of having good manners and etiquettes? What is wrong with being a gentleman at all times?

Good thing is...there are still some lurking around, you just got to find them!

"MEN!" sigh

I can't help sharing this with you, which I came across dear redheadritter's post. Funny but with a ring of reality...

Once upon a time, a guy asked a girl 'Will you marry me?'

The girl said, 'NO!'

And the guy lived happily ever after

and road motorcycles and went fishing and hunting

and played golf a lot and drank beer and scotch

and had tons of money in the bank and

left the toilet seat up and

let wind whenever he wanted.

The End

In her post, I have commented that not just a few time we can only sigh "MEN!"...but still, we have to accept that need them, we want them in our lives. And so the only thing to remember as to how to make everything work is the word COMPROMISE! With it we can find peace ~ on both ends!

GIFT FOR HIM

The holiday’s is fast approaching, and with it comes our problem as to what to give our man!

The very first on the list comes the WATCH. There’s so many to choose from but his personality will define what’s best for him. Is he the sporty type? A classy, indoor type?

Next goes the tools and equipment that would make his chores more manageable…but be sure that you know which one is already in his tool shed.

Maybe you, HEY MISTER…YES YOU!... can you give us help here…and give us an advice of what you want. Nothing better than to get the information from those who needs them.

COURTSHIP NOT LIMITED TO MEN NOW

How things change!!! Every thing have progressed and evolved to what seemed unbelievable, inappropriate and improper to believable, appropriate and proper.

If centuries ago it would have been appropriate that ladies not show even their ankles, now it’s not just ankles that are showing but way up to thighs or even more; if long ago it is unbelievable if someone tells you that a lady is working and doing something else other than household chores, now it is common to see ladies working, even more so a man’s job; and improper it may seem to elderly still, now it is proper and acceptable for ladies to do the first move and not wait for the gentleman to do the wooing or even the very courting.

Yes, how things have changed…how people have changed. Sometimes it is nice to look back and savor the simplicity of life lived by our ancestors, but then again there were times that we thank the heavens that we are in this generation.

Are you amongst the “hoping it was still yesterday” or amongst the “I’m glad I am here today”? What is it you prefer more than the other? Add more to these facts I love…
• The genteel lady of the past centuries, their naiveté and their innocence that upon learning of the mating at the proper time, it is more fulfilling for both the husband and the wife.
• The rights of the women today almost at a level with the men.

…there are a lot I know, please do share your thoughts ;)

SWEET WORDS

We know of men knowing how to make us feel those butterflies in our stomachs, gives us those unexpected tingling sensations or make our toes curl with delight. We even say we’re so used to it, that we know when it is coming. BUT still, we just can’t escape the wonderful effect it gives us even with just a simple word of appreciation, with those smoldering looks sent our way or even a simple flattering remark uttered.

Though intended to cause us those blushing moments, we still have doubts to the reason for it instead of merely appreciating it. It’s just way too many times already that men around us do such things to get something in return. They sometimes pose as a predator waiting for the kill. And so one wrong move, we’re dead.

Still there are those harmless ones that simply tell you honestly what they feel or to simply make us feel special as we deserve it. Maybe in this instance, we just have to trust our instincts and to just put extra care in our actions so as to avoid sending false signals at the same time keeping us safe from being a possible target to painful experience.