EXPERIENCE MAKES YOU THE WISER

I do not know any more when to believe the phrase "experience makes you the wiser". Probably possible, but not to all, especially when we are talking about love and relationship.

I see people, myself included YEARS AGO, go blind and reckless when in comes to decision making with love involve. We falter, and we push head on because we are consumed with that wonderful feeling of ecstatic love. It is euphoric and hyperventilating to be in cloud nine loving and being loved...to the point of madness sometimes. To the point of disobeying norms and rules of society. To the point of forgetting what we were raised not to do and what we ourselves believe of what is right and wrong.

And most of the time, we end up a loser. We fall, we get hurt, sometimes we get ruined. What we lose most is time. But that goes with it. What matters is we move on...and learn.

STILL, why is it that the learning for some ends the moment they get blinded again? Fool enough to forget what they have gone through or believing that this time it's different? Maybe it is possible...but travelling the same path of immorality, the same path of insanity cannot lead you to a different destination. Maybe a VERY little chance, luck probably. But if "experience makes you the wiser" you will see the signals blinking at you. Obvious enough to change your dance step, but often you got so inclined with the tune that you block off the whispering beware. Thus, the cycle of insanity, falling and hurting goes again.

Don't you think it is high time that you love yourself more and have a better cycle than that? I believe it is...and so I did became the wiser.

SONGS OF THE HEART: STAY by Pauline Wilson

It sometimes comes to a point of begging when the person who became our life, our breath, our everything...finds another way other than WITH us.

ETERNITY by Jude Deveraux

I browsed through my stacks of pocket books this time since I have nothing new still, and found this Eternity which I thought I have already read. But as I started on, I cannot recall ever encountering the story, half way, still do not believe I have seen it…now, I know that either I forgot all about it or have not read it ever believing that I already did.

Crazy as it may seem, I really think it is new to my eyes though already brown and tarnished…anyways, the story seems impossible but entertaining nonetheless. IT IS A LOVE STORY that resembles Cinderella being one poor, and the other rich. But this time it is in reverse, the lady is rich and the man in poverty with two kids and no wife. But no matter the difference in status they fell for each other; that no matter how much the Josh pushes Carrie away, she still tries her very best to win him over and give in to the love in their hearts.

Romantic fool that I am…no matter the circumstance, I still am touched with the intensity of the love within. I don’t care whether it’s believable or not, I am still reading on hoping it will have a happy ending!

BEAUTIFY HIM

It's not all for HERS, there also is a HIS' place to rest and relax, and beautify. After all, it's not only us ladies who needs to revitalize the skin, soothe the aching muscles and limbs, have our hair and nails taken care of...MEN needs them too.

One of the many first impressions that I consider significant is the cleanliness of the hands and nails. Not that I want them painted, I hate to see men wearing colorless nail polish! I just want them rid those black "something's" under the nails. And the hair, the crowning glory of both male and female, be neat, clean and flake free.

And so, men are not limited to the Barber shops of long ago, but also to the parlor's and spa's. Fear not men, for it will not lessen your "macho image" to be seen in them.

DECIDING TO HAVE KIDS

Some newly married couple prefers to wait a few years of enjoying each other before deciding to have kids. Some though are so inclined to having one right away that they conceive it as honeymoon babies.

It is a matter of readiness to build a family and to raise the product of “you and me”. But at this time and age it should be more than what you want but also of CAN YOU? World crisis makes most limit their number of children to 3 or less, and some countries even give a rule of only 1 per family due to over population. These are relevant to the possible here-after of child birth. The excitement and happiness will be there, but what of the responsibility of rearing them and assuring that they can be taken care of, and giving what they need. Can you provide them shelter, necessities, and a little of what they may ask for?

More so, can you be the perfect parent for them, loving them completely and no maltreatments or insufficient time allotted for them? Because if you will only have them to please your other half and blame the kid for being in the way of your career or your social life, DO NOT HAVE ONE. Kids are not puppies or dolls to be excited about at first then be ignored after you lost interest.

Children are blessings, and in them you are sure of having the love given you unselfishly. It is the most wonderful feeling to share your love and your all to someone loving you more than anything and anyone else; And to see them grow up to how you molded them. It is a prize to see them be the best that they are. It is a fulfillment to complete your family of “two of us” to “all of us”!

HEART TICKLER: LOVE YOU LEAST

The one who loves least controls the relationship.

~Unknown

Those in love are said to be making fools of themselves, that they are usually blinded with this love...to the extent of doing ANYTHING AND EVERYTHING for the better half. This is the reason why that better half is more in control of us.

I suggest that we follow nature as was created, the head above the heart! With it saying to think first before you feel.

TO BE PERFECT IN HER EYES

You are eyeing this girl for the longest time, but you are taking your time trying to be what she wants a man to be. She likes men carrying long hair, you grew your clean cut to long; she likes sports cars, you exchange your classy car to a sporty; she likes this, you do that.

You are then making her like her dream man and not YOU. This kind of arrangement can work, but not for a long-term relationship…because not so long after, you will want to be the real you. Lucky you if you are mistaken in believing that she will not like you for whom you are, and that the real you that will come to show sooner or later will be better than what or who you are portraying to be. But if not, heart break is to be expected.

So why not do the right thing the first time? Show the real you and if you are liked for who you are it will be more rewarding, and it is easier to the extreme as compared to the effort you will put through in pretending. The saying “no” of a girl can probably hurt your ego a little, but that’s nothing compared to the loss after finally having her then needing to let go.

"DIDN'T KNOW I WAS LOOKING FOR LOVE" -EBTG

Everything But The Girl Lyrics

Most of the time we were caught unaware with this thing called "LOVE". It is an ordinary day of leaving the house, going to work, having lunch, heading home...and suddenly there's this gorgeous man colliding with us as we walk down pedestrian lane, breaking the routine and putting us into spell.

That suddenly, life changed. We were definitely not looking for love, but love finds a way.

PRECIOUS MEMORIES IN "NOT" A BOX

I admit to being a sentimental fool…but sentimental fool or not, we all have memories to keep. Every occasion we have photos and memorabila’s that we store in our safest place at home. And when we are in love, everyday is an occasion!

Facebook is one of the most popular site that is being filled up with those photos. I myself have an account there that makes me connect with friends, old and new. And that it is the way and reason for me to create MORE memories to keep. But aside from this remarkable site, you can also have a personal page specifically for storing up your most valued times with your love ones; a safer one than your NOT fire-proof house, or your NOT poke-free cabinets.

My Heart Will is the answer to your hope of creating a special account for your special someone’s that only you and that love one can access. Messages, thoughts, recordings, photos, letters…any of those things can be kept here. That a few seasons after, you can relinquish the blossoming love that you now cannot believe to be happening…and a few years after, can reminisce on those splendid days you have with your love ones.

Loving is euphoric, and going back to that day is something we all do. Have the place to go to in one click, My Heart Will is offering what you have always wished for. Not a box, but a site full of your memories to keep.

HEART TICKLER: HEARTBREAKING…

"The hottest love has the coldest end".

~ by Socrates

Breaking up with our partner means bringing the relationship to its end; but this does not always end up with pain. There are times that it gives you happiness and freedom, but both ways there is CHANGE. Change in what we got used to, thus at a moment we become vulnerable. Out of balance. Still, soon enough we will be up and about…moving on.

The onset of this phase of moving on depends on HOW MUCH pain we are dealing with. And as the famous Greek Philosopher Socrates said, “The hottest love has the coldest end”. I believe that, if not all his ideas. Because I notice that the more one loves a person, the more they tend to make their better halves the center of their lives; thus the more adjustment is needed for them to have control of that life once again. It’s like pulling out a kidney in your system, your body needs to cope with just one kidney…and it will take time because it is used to having two. And the more you love a person, the more involved he is in your life. The more he is a PART of your life.