BEAUTY IN THE EYES OF THE BEHOLDER

I believe in the beauty inside of everyone is of great magnitude. It is the “YOU” that stays, it is what will be there even after you lost your youth; BUT the beauty outside is as relevant when you are to go into a relationship. It is in fact the very first that starts the spark, the attraction. A beautiful face that attracts to look into the beautiful “YOU” inside.

They say that beauty is in the eyes of the beholder, yes, that counts a lot! And we want ALL beholders’s to see a radiant beauty, smooth skin, perfection if possible. The reason why we have to rid of these pimples that I now have! I kept complaining about this actually, if you have read my recent post in my other blog, At-A-Blink. What I need is the wonders of Los Angeles Dermatologist Celibre. They have treatment after treatment to make a whole new you. You can say good bye to your scars and tattoos you want to remove, stretch marks that have been there since you first gave birth, sun damaged skins, unwanted hairs, spider veins, so on and so forth…all those ugly reminders of the old you.

I would like to jump with joy upon seeing the “Acne Treatment” though all I have are few small regular pimples, I still would want to have back my clear flawless skin (Wink! Wink! When I was I baby, haha!). I mentioned unwanted hair above as well, lo and behold, I finally can do away with my “balbon” (excessive hair in my legs) with the laser hair removal in Los Angeles , if only I am there in the U.S. and not thousands of miles away. Celibre is the answer to being truly beautiful in the eyes of whoever there is looking!

KNOCK KNOCK? A GENTELMAN HERE?

The truth is...it's getting harder and harder to find one these days.

I cannot say that MEN are purely to blame, because once upon a time they were there "for" us. Until sexism popped out of nowhere. Now they are giving us the space we needed, the level and equality we are seeking or demanding...only, TOO MUCH IS BEING GIVEN.

Sometimes when I read novels with settings on centuries ago, I cannot help but compare how special and precious and sensitive the women are then than today. The men values them like gems, they were taken care of like a fragile flower. They have less responsibilities. How easy it would have been . Then again, women have no voices before. They cower behind their men, they sit beside their feet and lick their hands.

But men need not be way above us, domineering and conceited being stronger than us, the weaker sex, to be gentleman! With or without that power, that strength, they can be respectful of women rights. They can value our capabilities, they can help with our weaknesses. What is so difficult with not raising hands over us? What's listening to our opinions and giving in when we are on the right? What of having good manners and etiquettes? What is wrong with being a gentleman at all times?

Good thing is...there are still some lurking around, you just got to find them!

"MEN!" sigh

I can't help sharing this with you, which I came across dear redheadritter's post. Funny but with a ring of reality...

Once upon a time, a guy asked a girl 'Will you marry me?'

The girl said, 'NO!'

And the guy lived happily ever after

and road motorcycles and went fishing and hunting

and played golf a lot and drank beer and scotch

and had tons of money in the bank and

left the toilet seat up and

let wind whenever he wanted.

The End

In her post, I have commented that not just a few time we can only sigh "MEN!"...but still, we have to accept that need them, we want them in our lives. And so the only thing to remember as to how to make everything work is the word COMPROMISE! With it we can find peace ~ on both ends!

LOVE'S NOT POSSESSION

Michael Jackson Lyrics

Another favorite song of mine from the legendary Michael Jackson. But what I love most in this song is the line LOVE'S NOT POSSESSION.

Love truly is not possession because doing so means you're giving selfish love, or if I may say so, giving nothing at all but taking. In loving, it has to be without holding anything back nor expecting anything in return. And the moment that this is true on BOTH ends, then there will be definite success and happiness in that relationship. This kind of thing almost seems impossible...but truth is, it is possible. Others may call it soul mate, but for me it's God given. And it is a prize given to those who are asking for it and is deserving of it.

“IN” THING…CHEAP REPLICA BAGS!

I’m sure you have been hearing and seeing louis vuitton handbags everywhere you look now, especially this holiday season. BUT not all of us can afford to give in to the vanity of having one. Yes it is “something” to be with your friends slinging along a tremendously beautiful bag, yet it is another to be feeling guilty buying something worth the whole of your wardrobe while you have ONE bag.

Now, can you believe in having one exactly alike but is actually a lot cheaper? That’s what you call louis vuitton replica handbags that I would gladly put my hands on. It’s the ideal thing to do these days of fashion trending though in economic crisis, be wise enough to find cheap replica bags. In fact, people are adept to the need in saving that it is often that they look for look-alike’s than the costly real thing. I remember years ago, almost like centuries ago already, when even us kids can buy the original Barbie Dolls and her accessories with our savings. Now, even the parents complain at the high cost, and settles on Barba’s and other unbranded replicas. Even perfumes now have smells-like, and not only is it half the price different but almost 80% less. How about owning load of those original, attention-getting bags but putting your life at stake whenever you bring it along knowing how bad the world is turning out to be? One moment you are gliding along with a proud face showing off your bag, and in an instant a man passes you along and with him is your gold-worth bag and everything inside it. Lucky you to even have your arm still with you, or your life not taken along. Tell me which you value more then, your bag or your life?

Clothes, bags, shoes…different things in this whole wide world now need to have replicas if that is the deal!

GAY MARRIAGE…YES OR NO?

Honestly, if you’re asking me I would have to say “NO”.

For the longest time I have always believed only of normal marriages, that’s a man to a woman; and not a man to man or woman to woman. Not only was I taught that it is what the society accepts years ago but of what the Bible says how it should be. Yes, maybe people have learned to accept that THINGS have changed and we with time changed as well…but why not do so not in accordance to how we were made? To what is proper?

I must admit that gay people are funny, those I know that is, and they are nice to be with…but that does not mean I go with whatever they want. I oppose to relationship between same sex, but I do not condemn them for being effeminate.

I believe that it is understandable that genetically they may have more estrogen than testosterone to have more of the womanly traits, but it is also a trial for them to fight off the wants and needs that is not supposed to be for them to give in to just because they want to…and just recently, because of others acceptance of it. After all, it only is acceptable but not commendable…more so, just temporary worldly happiness and after which, everlasting damnation.

CANCER, A FAD?!

Funny thing to say, but it really is one of the commonly heard illnesses these days. Young or old, rich or poor…everybody in all walks of life can have it. And there are so many of it, if only you can choose which one to have. Tsk! Okay, okay…seriously this time.

Whenever people hear of this big C, almost always we picture the treatment and of what is happening during and after it. But we must also consider the positive effects of what these treatments bring, thanks to reseach and technology because having Cancer now does not always mean death, it can be cured. And it’s not just chemotherapy these days, there’s the “pill a day” now for lung and pancreatic cancer treatment. Every step we take now takes us closer to finding out the breakthrough to curing all diseases…hopefully we also would know all the preventions TO STAY LONGER WITH OUR LOVE ONES AND BETTER HALVES.

DREAMER

In dreams and in love there are no impossibilities

~ by Janos Arnay

I have long ago trained myself to keep dreaming, and to keep believing. Because I know that in that world, the dream world, there is no impossibility. And that is where I reach anything unreachable. And it always gives me this moment of bliss, and the push to achieve that dream in reality. A motivation if I may say so.

Dreaming is the only thing we can do nowadays that is free, and so if you dream, dream big. This is where we are in the state of immortality, a state of perfection...and this is what people in love usually do as well. Because whatever that cannot be in the real world, can be in that dream world.

But we also can say that if you truly and deeply love someone, you can do everything in your power to do whatever it takes for that love. (well, in this instance, I'd like to iterate that THERE has to be bounds to what you should and should not do!)

PHOTO TREASURES

It’s not always sitting down and staring at each other, but moments of fun and laughter as well…these are moments of you and him that you treasure. And it can even be better with photofunia. Click! Click! You have your picture, but this site that have daily addition of fun, where you can choose a variety of backgrounds and styles makes your photo fun.

It is an understatement to say that being in love makes you crave to be with the one you love every minute, and so you would definitely be having a lot of those “you and me”. Your photo for your frame on your desk, your reminder of him in your room, momento of your first, second, third and so forth monthsary, your first moment together with your family, your favorite hang-out, your every moment. You have thousands of “you and me” even without an event definitely, and to give a twist and make it a little more different, try photofun.



In fact it is not just for you lovebirds, it is as fun to do with your friends photos, and your family. It also is an appealing to be in your different social network albums like Friendster, Facebook, Tagged, etc. I have some in mine and it makes people wonder how I do them…and they comment even on the magnificence of it. Art.

EXPERIENCE MAKES YOU THE WISER

I do not know any more when to believe the phrase "experience makes you the wiser". Probably possible, but not to all, especially when we are talking about love and relationship.

I see people, myself included YEARS AGO, go blind and reckless when in comes to decision making with love involve. We falter, and we push head on because we are consumed with that wonderful feeling of ecstatic love. It is euphoric and hyperventilating to be in cloud nine loving and being loved...to the point of madness sometimes. To the point of disobeying norms and rules of society. To the point of forgetting what we were raised not to do and what we ourselves believe of what is right and wrong.

And most of the time, we end up a loser. We fall, we get hurt, sometimes we get ruined. What we lose most is time. But that goes with it. What matters is we move on...and learn.

STILL, why is it that the learning for some ends the moment they get blinded again? Fool enough to forget what they have gone through or believing that this time it's different? Maybe it is possible...but travelling the same path of immorality, the same path of insanity cannot lead you to a different destination. Maybe a VERY little chance, luck probably. But if "experience makes you the wiser" you will see the signals blinking at you. Obvious enough to change your dance step, but often you got so inclined with the tune that you block off the whispering beware. Thus, the cycle of insanity, falling and hurting goes again.

Don't you think it is high time that you love yourself more and have a better cycle than that? I believe it is...and so I did became the wiser.

SONGS OF THE HEART: STAY by Pauline Wilson

It sometimes comes to a point of begging when the person who became our life, our breath, our everything...finds another way other than WITH us.

ETERNITY by Jude Deveraux

I browsed through my stacks of pocket books this time since I have nothing new still, and found this Eternity which I thought I have already read. But as I started on, I cannot recall ever encountering the story, half way, still do not believe I have seen it…now, I know that either I forgot all about it or have not read it ever believing that I already did.

Crazy as it may seem, I really think it is new to my eyes though already brown and tarnished…anyways, the story seems impossible but entertaining nonetheless. IT IS A LOVE STORY that resembles Cinderella being one poor, and the other rich. But this time it is in reverse, the lady is rich and the man in poverty with two kids and no wife. But no matter the difference in status they fell for each other; that no matter how much the Josh pushes Carrie away, she still tries her very best to win him over and give in to the love in their hearts.

Romantic fool that I am…no matter the circumstance, I still am touched with the intensity of the love within. I don’t care whether it’s believable or not, I am still reading on hoping it will have a happy ending!

BEAUTIFY HIM

It's not all for HERS, there also is a HIS' place to rest and relax, and beautify. After all, it's not only us ladies who needs to revitalize the skin, soothe the aching muscles and limbs, have our hair and nails taken care of...MEN needs them too.

One of the many first impressions that I consider significant is the cleanliness of the hands and nails. Not that I want them painted, I hate to see men wearing colorless nail polish! I just want them rid those black "something's" under the nails. And the hair, the crowning glory of both male and female, be neat, clean and flake free.

And so, men are not limited to the Barber shops of long ago, but also to the parlor's and spa's. Fear not men, for it will not lessen your "macho image" to be seen in them.

DECIDING TO HAVE KIDS

Some newly married couple prefers to wait a few years of enjoying each other before deciding to have kids. Some though are so inclined to having one right away that they conceive it as honeymoon babies.

It is a matter of readiness to build a family and to raise the product of “you and me”. But at this time and age it should be more than what you want but also of CAN YOU? World crisis makes most limit their number of children to 3 or less, and some countries even give a rule of only 1 per family due to over population. These are relevant to the possible here-after of child birth. The excitement and happiness will be there, but what of the responsibility of rearing them and assuring that they can be taken care of, and giving what they need. Can you provide them shelter, necessities, and a little of what they may ask for?

More so, can you be the perfect parent for them, loving them completely and no maltreatments or insufficient time allotted for them? Because if you will only have them to please your other half and blame the kid for being in the way of your career or your social life, DO NOT HAVE ONE. Kids are not puppies or dolls to be excited about at first then be ignored after you lost interest.

Children are blessings, and in them you are sure of having the love given you unselfishly. It is the most wonderful feeling to share your love and your all to someone loving you more than anything and anyone else; And to see them grow up to how you molded them. It is a prize to see them be the best that they are. It is a fulfillment to complete your family of “two of us” to “all of us”!

HEART TICKLER: LOVE YOU LEAST

The one who loves least controls the relationship.

~Unknown

Those in love are said to be making fools of themselves, that they are usually blinded with this love...to the extent of doing ANYTHING AND EVERYTHING for the better half. This is the reason why that better half is more in control of us.

I suggest that we follow nature as was created, the head above the heart! With it saying to think first before you feel.

TO BE PERFECT IN HER EYES

You are eyeing this girl for the longest time, but you are taking your time trying to be what she wants a man to be. She likes men carrying long hair, you grew your clean cut to long; she likes sports cars, you exchange your classy car to a sporty; she likes this, you do that.

You are then making her like her dream man and not YOU. This kind of arrangement can work, but not for a long-term relationship…because not so long after, you will want to be the real you. Lucky you if you are mistaken in believing that she will not like you for whom you are, and that the real you that will come to show sooner or later will be better than what or who you are portraying to be. But if not, heart break is to be expected.

So why not do the right thing the first time? Show the real you and if you are liked for who you are it will be more rewarding, and it is easier to the extreme as compared to the effort you will put through in pretending. The saying “no” of a girl can probably hurt your ego a little, but that’s nothing compared to the loss after finally having her then needing to let go.

"DIDN'T KNOW I WAS LOOKING FOR LOVE" -EBTG

Everything But The Girl Lyrics

Most of the time we were caught unaware with this thing called "LOVE". It is an ordinary day of leaving the house, going to work, having lunch, heading home...and suddenly there's this gorgeous man colliding with us as we walk down pedestrian lane, breaking the routine and putting us into spell.

That suddenly, life changed. We were definitely not looking for love, but love finds a way.

PRECIOUS MEMORIES IN "NOT" A BOX

I admit to being a sentimental fool…but sentimental fool or not, we all have memories to keep. Every occasion we have photos and memorabila’s that we store in our safest place at home. And when we are in love, everyday is an occasion!

Facebook is one of the most popular site that is being filled up with those photos. I myself have an account there that makes me connect with friends, old and new. And that it is the way and reason for me to create MORE memories to keep. But aside from this remarkable site, you can also have a personal page specifically for storing up your most valued times with your love ones; a safer one than your NOT fire-proof house, or your NOT poke-free cabinets.

My Heart Will is the answer to your hope of creating a special account for your special someone’s that only you and that love one can access. Messages, thoughts, recordings, photos, letters…any of those things can be kept here. That a few seasons after, you can relinquish the blossoming love that you now cannot believe to be happening…and a few years after, can reminisce on those splendid days you have with your love ones.

Loving is euphoric, and going back to that day is something we all do. Have the place to go to in one click, My Heart Will is offering what you have always wished for. Not a box, but a site full of your memories to keep.

HEART TICKLER: HEARTBREAKING…

"The hottest love has the coldest end".

~ by Socrates

Breaking up with our partner means bringing the relationship to its end; but this does not always end up with pain. There are times that it gives you happiness and freedom, but both ways there is CHANGE. Change in what we got used to, thus at a moment we become vulnerable. Out of balance. Still, soon enough we will be up and about…moving on.

The onset of this phase of moving on depends on HOW MUCH pain we are dealing with. And as the famous Greek Philosopher Socrates said, “The hottest love has the coldest end”. I believe that, if not all his ideas. Because I notice that the more one loves a person, the more they tend to make their better halves the center of their lives; thus the more adjustment is needed for them to have control of that life once again. It’s like pulling out a kidney in your system, your body needs to cope with just one kidney…and it will take time because it is used to having two. And the more you love a person, the more involved he is in your life. The more he is a PART of your life.

LOVE IS BLIND

Not always so...but sometimes, yes; because often it all starts with physical attraction. An opposite sex with attributes that makes him your dream man (0r girl for that matter); a nice smile, wonderful bod, sparkling eyes, even white teeth, generous mouth…etc. But at times, it goes beyond those...like that of intelligent, bright, men that some finds more attractive than handsome faces; or when the heart goes for the attitude or the friendship that have blossomed to love. And that’s when we say Love Is Blind. We do not rely on what the eyes have seen but on who makes the heart grow bigger.

We also hear of people saying, “It is my heart deciding not me”. It may sound romantic but definitely not possible, because the heart cannot think at all. It is just the way of putting into words that she chooses who makes her heart beat faster, who she loves.

Love is such a great thing for us to put into words. It is vague to use one word to define it. BUT so common for most to have the same experience to understand what the others are going through and love being blind comes along every so often.

I WILL DO "ANYTHING FOR YOU"

Miami Sound Machine’s Gloria Estefan originally made this song popular, and through the years have been one of my favorites. Local artist Nina rekindled the flame for this 80’s song in her own rendition which is now theme songs of most new-generation couples.

It may be an exaggeration to utter such phrase, but it has indeed been uttered between two people innumerable times already. And no matter how “gasgas” (scratched) and overused it is, it still is somewhat toe-curling to hear them from the one we love.

COURTING YOUR IN-LAWS

There are two phases of courtship, 1st is courting your beloved; and 2nd is courting your future In-Laws. Most of the time, the second is the harder of the two. You have to be on your best behavior, laying down the best of your characteristics, intentions, and of course…your career and achievements! That is why we ensure that we are deserving and worthy for their child.

And if you are traveling the path to medical career, I suggest that you look into this site where you will find a credible learning institute that have highly trained and experienced educators; varying areas that may be more accessible to your place; and excellent programs that includes internship or hands-on experience in their medical facilities.

MRI programs are offered in their site. May you be hoping to be an LVN or LPN Nurse, Psychiatric Technician, Radiologic Technician, Phlebotomy Technician, or DMS…and the likes, you would always look for a great place to accommodate your needs…and please your In-Laws as well.

TWEAK MY NOSE

If even, white teeth were discussed prior, now it’s that scent to linger. First Impression Lasts”, a popular phrase in the world of attraction that is directly related to these sensorial assets one must have for another to reminisce.

Taking extra care of our bodily needs and physical attributes are added factor to go one notch higher than those who do not. Admit it or not, there is a lot of competition going on for us to make a difference to the opposite sex. And it is an ego booster, if not a need to grab a partner, to be classified above the “common” or the “majority”.

And so, you must find the right personal scent that will go with your body chemistry and personality…a signature scent to define the YOU that you want others to want to go after.

KILLER SMILE

Want to have this metaphor given to a wonderful smile? That “killer smile” of even, pearly white teeth that melts ice, a smile to churn your insides, a smile to charm you man (or ladies).

One reason why during our teens (or even up to present) we go our Ortho’s and have those stings and pains just so our crooked teeth be adjusted to perfection is for us to have “that” smile. The same goes who buy teeth bleachers to do away with stains left by caffeine and nicotine, or those spending thousands (of pesos) to have tooth implants.

True enough, teeth are one of the first’s that measures up to our salability to others. I should know, because it is one of my criteria for you to pass my crush-o-meter!

SHOPAHOLIC AND BABY by Sofie Kinsella

This series of books by Kinsella is truly a “MUST-READ” for me! It not only made me laugh out loud, but I love the way it is written. Simple yet brilliant. Down right realistic, but somehow unbelievable when it comes to the shopaholic part. It is obviously put into exaggeration, and it is hilarious!

I especially love the story of this Shopaholic and baby because the story touched on one of the most important word in a married life: TRUST. I believe that there really comes a time that this trust that you are trying so much to give may be a little shaken, but with proper communication, whatever doubts you have will be resolved. And that this communication should always be open in both sides.

The having the baby part is another that made the story even more touching since this is one of the most awaited time in a couple’s life, bringing your own child into the world. The excitement shared by each other makes the bond grow stronger and the love to root deeper. This is a topic that is sensitive enough to warm the heart of everyone…because this is when a person is most vulnerable.

WEDDING CAKES

Last time I had to buy cake is when my daughter celebrated her birthday, and there’s this theme we are supposed to follow ~ The Princess theme. And she requested Cinderella so I had to go from one Cake shop to another looking for the right one. It is mind boggling enough…but how more on a wedding cake?!

I definitely need more than a week in choosing. From the design to the taste, since I love “almost” every variety there is. Yeah, I love cakes! And just this morning, I was visited by this new blogger friend and upon browsing through, there she have wedding cakes!

And all you married ladies out there, I’m sure you will agree with me when I say that it is one of those important things to look into in a wedding. Am I right? Why so for you?

MAKING LOVE by Roberta flack

Roberta Flack Lyrics

“There’s more to love than making love” is a phrase that has been kept repeating over and over in this song. Just as it was in one of my previous posts, I have zeroed in on S- - not being the only thing that makes of marriage (or relationship). Frankly, it also gives a big enough impact to be remembered when everything else failed. BUT in this instance, we use the word Making Love, because too much of a strong emotion connected to it than pure and simple s - - that implicates worldly need. That something special comes out from our very being IF love is in the center.

SENSELESSNESS

A long ago funny poem that brings to mind what happens to us when we become senselessly in love. It feels mighty nice to be in cloud nine, and believe it or not…it happens still though we’re not so young as we were. This poem I’d like to share with you have been with me since high school…and I had copied in my organizer which I have to dig out from my long ago stack of notebooks and things. Hope you enjoy it as I did again this morning when I read it after decades of being kept.

All Because You Kissed Me Goodnight
~by Sandy Rirstan

I climbed the door and opened the stairs,
Said my pajamas and put on my prayers.
Then turned off the bed and crawled in the light,
All because you kissed me goodnight.

Next morning I woke and scrambled my shoes,
Polished my eggs and toasted the news.
I couldn’t tell my left from my right,
All because you kissed me goodnight.

That evening at last, I felt normal again,
So I picked up my mother and called the phone,
I spoke to the puppy and threw dad a bone.
Even at midnight the sun was still bright,
All because you kissed me goodnight.

GIFT FOR HIM

The holiday’s is fast approaching, and with it comes our problem as to what to give our man!

The very first on the list comes the WATCH. There’s so many to choose from but his personality will define what’s best for him. Is he the sporty type? A classy, indoor type?

Next goes the tools and equipment that would make his chores more manageable…but be sure that you know which one is already in his tool shed.

Maybe you, HEY MISTER…YES YOU!... can you give us help here…and give us an advice of what you want. Nothing better than to get the information from those who needs them.

WHAT’S THE NEED FOR THOSE FLOWERS?

Is it simply because of tradition that a man has to bring flowers to his girl? Isn’t his presence enough?

Flowers for so long have been a token of love. That in the event that you want to convey something, you hand over a bunch of them. In actuality, women, by nature, loves flowers. It brings out the femininity in them. And so bearing this in mind, men then gives them what would please them, thinking that flowers is one of them. But remember…it is only one of them, and it also depends on the woman’s personality.

Still, as afore mentioned, it has been a tradition; and so is now being almost expected by women from those pursuing them. Somewhat making it a basis of comparison as to the other women being pursued.

I guess then that to be on the safe side, provide them flowers unless they are allergic to it! ;)

JEALOUSY…IS IT A POSITIVE OR NEGATIVE TRAIT?

This has always been a topic of interest in a couple, and as for me, I personally have one answer: “ANYTHING IN EXCESS IS NOT GOOD!”

…and same goes with this jealousy inside a relationship. It is healthy in a way in letting the other know that you care enough to get hurt, but in excess of it will be lacking trust. The moment though that YOU DON’T CARE whether he does not go home and not be aware of anything happening to him, you simply have let the love fade away. That you really do not care anymore.

Keep the love burning, give assurances and not let insecurities build in between. “It takes two to tango” so it’s not always HIS job to do that, but HERS as well.

CULTURAL GAP

There really is an existing cultural gap…BUT in the matters of the heart it is NON-EXISTENT!

Benetton always comes to mind whenever this cultural gap is mentioned. Benetton really have a high end when it comes to their trademark of different races joined together in their products. I can probably say LOVE IS BENETTON. That love is possible even in different colors, because I see couples of differing colors make it to the altar.

As they say…”Love conquers all!” Obviously, even the gaps!

HEART TICKLER: DON'T LET IT START IN BED...

Marriage is more than four bare legs in a bed
~ by Hoshang N. Akhta

More often than not, a marriage, or a relationship that started in bed (or because of "it") ~ do not survive the long lasting commitment and responsibility connected to it.

We cannot just jump into marriage because we are sexually compatible. Well in the true sense of the word, we should not actually know that until AFTER we are married. But speaking of the general population's state..."it" is just a small part of it.

Yes there's the sizzle, there's the sparkle...but is there friendship? Is there mutual understanding or compatibility outside the bedroom? Though there were instances that it develops and blossoms to love, but as per common occurrence, it is the reason for separation and divorces that seems to be as getting more and more frequent among our circle of friends. Celebrities being on top of the list of the most number of broken homes and families.

We have to remember always that s-- is too sacred to be played upon, yet too simple a reason to take the vows to being together forever.

SEAMAN FOR A HUSBAND

More and more acquaintance get married to a "seaman"...and according to them, it is both fulfilling and being left empty.

Practically, they get to live a comfortable life, being provided for. But having them gone for more than a month makes you cry for more time with him. A family without the head is like a wobbly boat. A child growing up without the constant supervision of a father makes them incomplete.

BUT a partner to stay and be "the you" the family needs for a time is suffice to make it all worthwhile. Because admit it or not, life on earth is pretty hard and the offer given you being at sea will keep the family afloat. A strong bond to that love you have for each other will help you both go on. And in the end, the benefits of it all can surpass the lost time. JUST KEEP HOLDING ON.

Or...not? You know best being there...what can you say about this?

A POEM OF A FRIEND

I see you smile

I see you smile, and it haunts me forever.
I hold on to you as the lights fill my eyes.
A fleeting moment that we’re together,
You fade away as the morning cries.

I can only try to remember,
All the things we we’re happy for.
I miss us so bad it’s like a frozen ember.
Longing for the time we could have more.

A friend have created this personal poem. I am caught in between the lines thinking of the sadness or of the rapture being revealed in here.

What brings to mind though...is the shortness of the happiness we have here on earth. That each and everything have it's end. And as always, we're always hoping for more, if only it will be given.

MARRIAGE FOR CONVINIENCE…DOES IT WORK?

Filipino’s used to be traditionalists, old-fashioned to others. BUT come 20th century...it almost had been pure history. "Almost" because there are still a few who goes with what their families have passed on from generation to generation.

Still, I am not saying that this “marriage for convenience” is not old-fashioned; because even in the past decades, it has been going on. The “family arrangement” where parents have agreed upon another family friend of their offspring’s marriage that is to be held a decade or so after; or of a certain custom like that of the royalties centuries ago where in they cannot have the vows if not within the family or clan. Likewise, the Chinese custom which I believe to be practiced to this day though not everyone is another example of which.

TODAY, “marriage for convenience” includes political reason, or for financial stability. Some says it works and some doesn’t. There is this certain hold you have for each other due to common or interlacing goal. It can work but not necessarily fulfilling. Love may blossom, or the differences may eat up your individuality. It may continue on with easy friendship or romantic love; but it can also little by little rot your insides up, resort to violence, constant emotional attack or end up with separation. It is also common to see 2 different races bound together in a marriage. It is not easy needing to fill in the cultural gap in addition to common adjustments in a newly wed, and differently-raised individuals. Then again, life is full of surprises…either we end up smiling or crying.

What do you think?

RINGS: BAND OR BOND?

In a couple, these rings signify something deeper than it being a band. With it creates a lasting bond that both hopes to surpass earthy life.

A reason why we give much importance to it, especially that very ring declaring our belongingness to each other: the wedding ring. This ring that can never be excluded in a marriage unlike an engagement ring that some may not deem necessary anymore, though if able the man would want the world to know that his girl is already his though still awaiting the wedding bells.

Still, women gives greater importance to it than men does. That is why it is us mostly choosing the rings. What is the best that suits you? There’s so much to choose from actually. Some prefers it plain and smooth hoping the relationship to run as smooth as it is.

Others are more able and extravagant in choosing, and prefer to have nothing other than the sparkling eternity hoping for the love to sparkle for eternity as it does. The fact that it truly is beautiful that I myself would want to have such as my knight in shining armor slips it on me. And no matter the style, the inscriptions inside is a prerequisite.

Just be sure that it does not have the ones written in that famous ring created in Mordor that Mr. Frodo have to guard from greedy men in the Lord of the rings!

HOW DO YOU WANT YOUR WEDDING DONE?

It is a year of fantasizing a wedding of my own after seeing that supposedly secret dream-come-true wedding of the year between a famous Filipino celebrity couple Judy Ann Santos and Ryan Agoncillo. They were hoping for it to be as private as possible and so decided for it to come out as a surprise to the general public if incase it will. It sure did but not until the wedding is about to take place. It even was televised hours after. Remarkable!

Them starting off at a church the bride’s parents wed decades ba

ck and ended with a beach reception obviously connotes well planning. Everything the couple is can be seen in their choices of invitation which is a box with one flipflop to which you will find the other half in the wedding reception itself; the guest singers that have made the ceremonies more memorable; the breakfast, the boat ride and the dinner. Every event in the whole day affair is as special as each other. It is the perfect wedding…simply because they were able to do what they both love.

Another famous couple chose a different way of doing their wedding. Well known anchor woman Korina Sanchez and Senator running for presidency Mar Roxas chose to do it in the simplest of weddings preferring only that it

be witnessed by every Filipino. It was aired except for the private reception that followed which includes close family and friends. They revealed that the supposed millions of peso cost of reception will be donated instead to calamity victims.

Weddings differ as each of us differs. Our preferences counts, but our status still is the main reason as to how it will turn out.

SHOUT TO THE WORLD

Nothing surpasses anything to make the heart plumper than to have someone shout to the world of how lucky he is to have you, of how much you mean to him. This simple thing is in fact a great big deal to women in love. It is close to a proof that it is genuine love almost the same to an engagement ring…which is next to the wedding itself.



Sweeter than sweet for a woman to do this, but what more of a man doing this? One may call it “cheesy”, “emo”, or “possessive”, “overacting”…but to women in love, it’s pure and simple LOVE EXPRESSION.

I don’t know with you, but I will feel pretty special if it was me…just as my best bud Mimi being loved by her Badong.

LOVE VITAMIN

You don’t have to start looking for this in your vitamin cases, because you can’t find it written as such, but as Phenylethylamine (PEA). In fact you can even have it in a nearby store and not in the drug stores…because it is in the most common form of chocolates.

Yes, yes you heard me right ~ plain and simple chocolates. Well, that’s aside from it being released from the emotional part of the brain when we fall in love. Right again, when we feel all mushy and cheesy; the reason why you receive them from your suitors is simply them hoping that whatever lacks in the natural release in the body will be compensated by what chocolates can do.

So all you men out there, don’t be overly worried of us losing those curves…in exchange to obtaining our love ;)

LAST BREATH

“if i has to choose between loving you, and breathing.
I would use my last breath to say I
LOVE YOU” ~ by Dani B.

This is easy enough to understand than quotes like "Beneath the coupled gold faints the painless catalog" or “The teeming Autumn big with rich increase, bearing the wanton burden of the prime like widowed wombs after their lords decease”.

“If I has to choose between loving you, and breathing. I would use my last breath to say I
LOVE YOU”…and this I believe has been done unaccountable times through the years even before this very quote has been written because love brings out the poets in us. We become even more deserving of such write-ups at that very moment of uttering them because it is coming from the inner recesses of our hearts and souls.

And it is the hardest part in all of our lives, letting go of our love one to the painful separation of death. AND SO, LET US NOT AWAIT FOR OUR LAST BREATH TO SAY THOSE MAGICAL WORDS, “I love you”!

I AM SENIOR TO MY MAN

In my previous post, a question has been raised, does age matter in a relationship? …and I am reminded of it with this book in my bookshelf for years already but have not read until yesterday when I decided to bore myself to death with it if it really is a bore. But as it turned out, it is not! After all it is a Jude Deveraux, one of those authors’s whose books I collect. Maybe I just did not trust the cover much before, the reason why I believed it to be uninteresting.

10 years age gap can work, just as it did with my great grans being a teacher-student relationship. They lived happily with 7 loving kids. BUT I am uncertain if it is conceivable if it is a 10 year gap with the lady being the more senior. It just seems impossible. Women by nature, matures earlier than men…and that big a gap may not be pursuable anymore. I don’t’ know if you know any couple in such a case, if so, I would love to hear their standing. Just as I am not sure yet how this story, The Invitation, will turn out. Jackie is the baby sitter of Billy whom he has loved since and until they met again a decade after.

An exciting story I can say, them being both very aware of each other and the spark of interest that had been there all along is now in a mature definition.

LOVING YOU FROM AFAR

Richie Lionel HELLO Lyrics

Loving people from afar is unsatisfying as it is unsettling. It is human nature to love, and eluding that possibility of sharing that feeling is simply cowardice. Fear of being put down or fear of shattering a comfortable but incomplete bond with someone is the most common reasoning heard. That it is far better to suffer from that reward of ensuring that special someone is being loved far greater than anyone would THAN to be shuttered of that dream of someday doing just that. That you will keep your ego intact THAN not needing to question no one but yourself where she is, who she is with, is she lonesome. That you would rather lay in dreaming and waiting for her to come to you THAN have her in your arms saying I LOVE YOU.

REMEMBER, life is full of surprises. You never know what awaits you…that while you are wasting precious time of being with her, time runs off until later on IT’S TOO LATE.

You can never know until you try…and try you should when that something or someone is worthy of it!!!

MEND YOUR BROKEN HEART

Believe it or not…TIME alone can mend it!

One may hid behind laughter’s or activities, but inside, still bleeding and burning as an aftermath of the break-up. It may take days, weeks, months…even years DEPENDING on your acceptance of reality before you can look back and not feel a thing. That’s how it is in this world, that’s how our creator made life. With happiness comes sadness. Both tears of joy and tears of sorrow exist.

Talking about it gives others the venting they need, but in others it rekindles the flame. Understand that in every thing we do there is a corresponding cause and effect; there’s a beginning and an end.

Again, acceptance is the key. And it’s not just in a snap will you acknowledge the facts…it takes TIME.

HEART TICKLER: MY HOME

"Duke: That's my sweetheart in there.

Wherever she is, that's where my home is."

- from the movie The Notebook

Finding someone to love gives us a reason to live, and nowhere else but in the comfort of her arms. That wherever she is, we know that's where we belong. Elsewhere will be chaos, incontentment, uneasiness...darkness!

A reason why couples in between a wedding preparation feels that it is unbearable to the extreme...because the waiting to be with that one person you wanted to be with seems to take forever. BUT THEN savoring a long craved piece of cake tastes 3x more tastier with all the wait! =)

COURTSHIP NOT LIMITED TO MEN NOW

How things change!!! Every thing have progressed and evolved to what seemed unbelievable, inappropriate and improper to believable, appropriate and proper.

If centuries ago it would have been appropriate that ladies not show even their ankles, now it’s not just ankles that are showing but way up to thighs or even more; if long ago it is unbelievable if someone tells you that a lady is working and doing something else other than household chores, now it is common to see ladies working, even more so a man’s job; and improper it may seem to elderly still, now it is proper and acceptable for ladies to do the first move and not wait for the gentleman to do the wooing or even the very courting.

Yes, how things have changed…how people have changed. Sometimes it is nice to look back and savor the simplicity of life lived by our ancestors, but then again there were times that we thank the heavens that we are in this generation.

Are you amongst the “hoping it was still yesterday” or amongst the “I’m glad I am here today”? What is it you prefer more than the other? Add more to these facts I love…
• The genteel lady of the past centuries, their naiveté and their innocence that upon learning of the mating at the proper time, it is more fulfilling for both the husband and the wife.
• The rights of the women today almost at a level with the men.

…there are a lot I know, please do share your thoughts ;)

LIVING IN MY BOOK

Everybody have their own fairy tales and secret dreams…because that’s where we can fulfill our greatest hopes that cannot happen in our own lives. I have so many of them. Yes, I am even a daydreamer. I have my own stories, I have my own heroes.

But apart from those dreams, I live also in the novels and the books that I read. I am right now Sara a boarded a ship that belongs to my husband whom I married when I was still 4 years old. Yeah, it is an arranged marriage, but successful nonetheless. There were the usual ups and downs that naturally come along in a newly bounded couple; the adjustment and the getting to know each other phase.

This book is a romantic-comedy that had me laughing, curl my toes in delight and even peek through my fingers as I cover my face with my hand in the unbelievable events. It’s mighty entertaining, and truly inspiring to have your own love story to tell.

SWEET WORDS

We know of men knowing how to make us feel those butterflies in our stomachs, gives us those unexpected tingling sensations or make our toes curl with delight. We even say we’re so used to it, that we know when it is coming. BUT still, we just can’t escape the wonderful effect it gives us even with just a simple word of appreciation, with those smoldering looks sent our way or even a simple flattering remark uttered.

Though intended to cause us those blushing moments, we still have doubts to the reason for it instead of merely appreciating it. It’s just way too many times already that men around us do such things to get something in return. They sometimes pose as a predator waiting for the kill. And so one wrong move, we’re dead.

Still there are those harmless ones that simply tell you honestly what they feel or to simply make us feel special as we deserve it. Maybe in this instance, we just have to trust our instincts and to just put extra care in our actions so as to avoid sending false signals at the same time keeping us safe from being a possible target to painful experience.

HEART TICKLER : YOU

"the best thing about me...is YOU!"

by shannon crown

Isn't it the sweetest when the love of your life is ecstatic because HE HAVE YOU and not because SOMEONE HAVE HIM?! This simply connotes the selflessness of the love and it being known to you and to everyone else is just something to cherish...and another reason to fall all over again =)

And so, do not be afraid to tell your better half of that wonderful feeling of having him (or her!) because we all feel the same way when it comes to being loved. Make them feel special the way you wanted to feel special. Do what you wanted to be done to you. Yes, in a relationship there is a need for the so-called GIVE AND TAKE but why wait for a take when you know that giving makes you as happy as your love one will be?!?

WHY IS HE LEAVING?

MySpace Music Playlist at MixPod.com

This is amongst my favorites...

a very soothing music that makes me want to wallow

in the love of this man who needs to go.

Michael Frank's "Lady Wants To Know" is one of those songs of the heart that portrays reality, and as I listen, it always makes me feel the love between the couple but there's the wonder as to the reason for the need for distance.

This reality of a man's confusion to what he feels happens, and it sometimes poses a problem to a relationship. And we know that they were the ones who are good at hiding these emotional turmoils that leads to misunderstandings, and seldom do the lady of his heart gives him the so-called "space" he needs simply because the lady is not aware of this unspoken demand. This confusion that becomes all the more confusing. If only they would not include the romantic side of them to that male ego they naturally have. AND if only all the ladies be reminded of these facts that had to be accepted and dealt with to keep the love going.

AGE DOES MATTER?

If you ask me, it DOES AND DOES NOT! Primarily because in choosing a partner age is just ONE factor to consider. Greater emphasis should be placed on your compatibility. Both ends should meet. He may be younger in years, but you yourself is innocent to the extreme for your preferences to be in agreement. Or he may be a decade older, but you’re wise for your age and thru life experiences you can catch up with his intellectual capacity.

Physically, age can deceive us into revealing signs of maturity. There are some fortunate individuals though were gifted with delayed indicators, yours truly is one of which THANK GOD ;) But partnership does not end with the difference in age. There are the preferences, the principles, and the rearing. Imagine two different individuals who have grown up with different people, have lived and believed in different facts…then suddenly BOOM, love blossoms…here comes in the acceptance of one another. Respecting each individual’s likes and dislikes.

If one is to choose, there is of course greater possibility that the one closest your age will match your partialities. There will not be a problem with the crowd you both fancy, say your community-help gatherings and his sports buddies; the measure of your physical capacity will match as well thus activities will not be so far off, like his trekking and your cracking joints and aching limbs; or simply the concern of any generation gap in music, in events or the so-called “in” things.

…then again LOVE conquers all! Just make sure that THE LOVE YOU HAVE NOW WILL CONTINUE TO BURN AS THE YEARS GO BY. That is why people say, “Think it over a thousand times before saying I DO!”

HEART TICKLER: LOVE ME FOR WHAT I AM

”you got to love me for what I am, for simply being me.

Don’t love me for what you intend, or hope that I would be…”

- from a Karen Carpenter song Love Me For What I Am

This is a common problem encountered in a relationship with a domineering partner, or those with high expectations with their love ones, or even to those who are aware how their better halves loves them way too much. It’s in this situation that such words can be uttered after the relationship have traveled a little while already though not in exactly the same words.

There’s the feeling of inadequacy and/or the feeling of suffocation that leads then to letting go of the love you so hoped to work out. It’s either that one get fed up with too much effort being exerted in the relationship instead of it being comfortable, frequent fights and misunderstandings or simply discontentment.

One cannot insist on a mere physical attraction. The totality of that person needed to be compatible with your own totality if you want your relationship to have an easy flow. Nevertheless, those others also can survive though with a little more challenge and spice if there is full acceptance of each ones differences, strong points and weak points. Respect is very important in every relationship...especially in two differently reared individual adjusting to becoming one.

CHILDHOOD SWEETHEARTS

It’s utterly sweet when two elementary schoolmates, after decades of separation, have once again found each other to continue with the so-called “puppy love”. It’s amazing that all through the years, and of all the relationships and trials that passed them by, it’s still their own love affair that’s bound to fulfill that void that they need filled.

We all have our own stories to tell, own childhood sweethearts maybe? But not everyone have the same heart bursting excitement of being with that “first love” again. It is timely that I learned of this since I am lately watching this Philippine tele-serye (television series) “Dahil May Isang Ikaw” that also centers on a childhood love that has found each other again. It seems impossible, but then again, now I know that it is possible! As this couple said, “Thanks to Facebook” to which they owe their gratitude for being the bridge to their long lost link.

How about you, have you been as lucky to have such love affair? Or maybe an even better one?

LOOKING FOR MR.RIGHT?

A rhetorical question, I’m sure! Everybody wants to end up with the RIGHT and not the WRONG one.

People seek their horoscopes in the magazine, have their tarots read looking for the so-called “Soulmate” or simply doing the “find him my way” by not waiting for him to come to her but go look for him. Going to parties to increase the number of choices, agreeing to blind dates hoping for that magical spark of “love at first sight”, or joining dating sites in the web and social networks like Tagged to travel across the globe for a farther search.

We may not voice out our participation in this wide search for Mr. Right…but we definitely are guilty of hoping to find him. Deny it all you want, but there’s no one to benefit but you in this advice:

I KNOW OF THE VERY BEST WAY…

“Houses and wealth are inherited from parents, but a prudent wife (or husband, I believe) is from the Lord” (Proverbs 19:14). In tagalog version, “Namamana sa magulang ang bahay at kayamanan, Ngunit buhat kay Yahweh ang mabuting maybahay (asawa)”.

He alone can give us the best, we only have to ask Him.

TADAHHHHHHHH!

HELLO WORLD =)

I’m so happy to tell you that I’m finally back, and that I terribly missed blogging and my blogger friends. HOPE YOU’RE ALL STILL THERE, because you’re the reason I keep coming back. If you can notice, my ”blog-mates” have been edited posting your names and identifying sites which are closer to my heart than just your websites…at the same time reviewing them for inactive ones BUT I admit that IT WASN’T SO EASY and so PLEASE LET ME KNOW IF YOUR NAME WAS UNINTENTIONALLY MISPLACED. I can put it right back in a few strokes, please let me know right away, okay?! No offence friends, peace!

It’s been a while and I tried my best to heal whatever threats I had…I wonder why of all sites…mine was chosen by a hacker to pester. I hope to be rid of them evil-doers FOREVERRRRRRRRRRR!!! Shooooo! Leave me to my simple happiness of making other people happy just reading my posts…and better yet of the friendship created in this World of Blogging.

Let me then end this by saying THANK YOU to all those who have followed me through for almost a year now, for those who drops by every so often, for all commentors who shares with me their thoughts and their time and for all who have became as dear to me as I am to them!

SEE YOU ALL AGAIN HERE IN MY SITE…

S.O.S.

HELLO FRIENDS! i need help with my site!!!

if you can notice, it's been a while since i last visited my site...please understand that i am at the moment trying to do some html checking for fear of spammers and hackers.

don't be alarmed if at this moment you will not see YOUR links in my blogroll, which i have temporarily deleted BUT i promise to restore soon. i apologize and i hope this will not affect our connections and friendship.

i'll be back as soon as i can. please do not hesitate to email me at jeniortizxv@gmail.com for any message you wanted for me to read sooner.

TO ALL WHO CONTINUOUSLY DROPS BY THANK YOU; AND to those who wanted to be linked back I PROMISE TO GET BACK TO YOU=)

LONG TIME CRUSH

Am I hypnotized?

I can’t take my eyes off you

A beautiful creation perfected…the product—YOU!

Oblivious to my ever watchful stares

You went on your way

Striding…gliding with that very sexy sway.

My moment froze when you first looked straight into my eye

Pulse raising, palm sweating, I waited for your smile

I held on to that gaze, and melted away when you said “hi!”

Even in my dream I see those thick lashed eyes

Full, inviting lips and a bod so nice

Even those hands, almost perfect…I’m not really surprised.

An architect, they say you are

Great at playing billiards, what I’ve seen so far

If only I can go back to college days to finally let happen my dreams of you and me, as par!

Yes it’s been 13 long years since I last saw you

But to this day I remember you

The beautiful you that makes me long for atleast someone like you…if not you.

this one here is a li'l bit of a revelation of the romantic side of me=) for my A____ who have been my long time crush...wonder where he is now.

this is actually a re-post from my life 'round meNyou which is an intro to my next post MR. RIGHT. visit back for it, okay?